So about this time of year, everyone’s looking to relax, to maybe eat and drink too much, to party too hard to just let go in some way or another.
I wonder what useful things you could do if you decide to enter into this place, if this is a place you’re planning to enter, that could be useful for you.
In most NLP material there seems to be an aversion to doing anything that will bring about discomfort or pain. This may well be a good thing! Often there’s enough discomfort and pain in life without learning practices that might amplify this ‘ouchy’ feelings. I like to think about pain and discomfort a little differently however. Maybe it’s got something to do with the decades of Martial Arts & Physical training (my stomach just looked at me and turned away in disgust) or maybe I’m just a black hearted brigand.
Either way, there’s a lot to be said for pain and discomfort, and here’s a controversial thought for you to try on..
We have stronger reference experiences in negative situations than we do in positive ones.
Now, I don’t know if this is true, but it feels true to me. Try it on for yourself: think of the best thing that ever happened to you and the worst thing that ever happened to you. To each of this use the amplitude scale (or on a scale of 1-10 for those of you that aren’t pomous, jargon loving berks). See which is the stronger of the two.
Was I right? I’d be interested to know.
Look, I’m not saying it’s a waste of time learning to feel good, hell no. Feeling good is one of my favourite things. But when it’s in the right context.
I take issue with this ‘feeling good for no reason at all’ syndrome. There’s nothing wrong with this now and again, but to do this too much – is to walk around like a grinning idiot, living in a cave and eating rocks. Bit of a Logic jump huh? True enough. This leads me to this ‘guesstimation’ and generalisation of people:
That mostly, people are ‘Away From’ in nature. What’s my evidencing criteria for this? Well nothing more than a bunch of unproven theories I’m afraid.
Imagine you have both hands out in ‘please sir can I have some more’ position.
Now imagine that in one hand there’s a red hot coal, and the other there is the most pleasurable thing you could possibly feel on your hand.
What would demand your attention first/more? If you’re like me, it’s te red hot coal.
“PAIN BAD!” is what happens for me.
Besides, if I get rid of the pain I can then be soothed and distracted by the wonderful pleasure on the other hand.
OK so what the hell’s this got to do with Christmas???
Well, what would happen I wonder, if you thought about yourself with a hangover, what all senses (VAKOG) would *SCREAM*back to you? How long will it affect you? Hours, Days? How’d you feel after that? Ready to go again?
If you imagine yourself stuffing yourself to the point where you’re seriously uncomfortable, holding all that grub inside your tummy, what’s that like? So uncomfortable to move, just imagine how much gas that gut is going to have to pass, let alone the other stuff. I’m feeling uncomfortable just writing this stuff, maybe you’re feeling that too.
How much do you feel like tucking in, or knocking back loads of booze now?
If you still do, then contact me on 0208 133 1514. That’s a half joke.
By now you might be getting a little annoyed. I am too.
And I’m going to sign off just like that. with a bad taste in your mouth.
Ensure you have a wonderful safe festive season all!